How to Help Your Friend or Co-Worker
The first step you can take to help your friend is to learn more about domestic violence.
Become Informed: Gather all the information you can about domestic violence; contact programs and services in your area; and contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (NDVH) to talk to staff about your concerns.
Lend a Sympathetic Ear: Letting your friend know that you care and are willing to listen may be the best help you can offer. Don’t force the issue, but allow her to confide at her own pace. Never underestimate her fear of potential danger.
Be a Friend In Deed: Survivors have unique challenges and needs that often require the help of friends and family. Provide whatever you can: transportation, child care, or financial assistance.
Help Develop A Safety Plan: Encourage your friend to develop a plan to protect herself and her children. Personal Safety Plan | Spanish version
When to Intervene: It cannot be overemphasized that domestic violence is a crime that can result in serious physical injury and even death. If you have knowledge that abuse is occurring in a relationship, call the police immediately. Calling the police does not always mean the abuser will be put in jail. It is simply the most effective way to protect the victim and children from immediate harm.
There are many sources of help for teens and adults who are in abusive relationships. If someone needs help they can call, talk with an advocate anonymously and confidentially and discuss their relationship and options for change.
National Domestic Violence Hotline – www.ndvh.org
800-799-SAFE (7233); 800-787-3224 TTY
National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline – www.loveisrespect.org
866-331-9474; 866-331-8453 TTY