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By: 生活 » Domestic Violence Resources

生活 » Domestic Violence Resources — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 08:05:14 +0000

[...] Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233). “Am I Being Abused?” list of relationship factors to consider. Website has a “quick escape” feature [...]

By: New Moon: Misogyny Alive And Undead « Kasama

New Moon: Misogyny Alive And Undead « Kasama — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:02:07 +0000

[...] to the National Domestic Violence hotline, these are some signs that you may be in an emotionally or physically abusive [...]

By: Domestic Violence Resources » Post » healthyjoyful

Domestic Violence Resources » Post » healthyjoyful — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 18:34:28 +0000

[...] Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233). “Am we Being Abused?” list of attribute factors to consider. Website has a “quick escape” underline to [...]

By: Domestic Violence Resources « Women’s Health News

Domestic Violence Resources « Women’s Health News — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 16:46:52 +0000

[...] Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233). “Am I Being Abused?” list of relationship factors to consider. Website has a “quick escape” feature [...]

By: Abusive Relationship Patterns in Twilight » The Sly Oyster | culture, entertainment, liberal arts, shenanigans » Blog Archive

Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:39:28 +0000

[...] relationship as it compares to the National Domestic Violence hotline’s list of domestic abuse warning signs, and everything matches [...]

By: The Choice Is Now » Blog Archive » Why I Hate “Twilight” (or a treatise on how glorified codependency is totally not cool)

Mon, 30 Nov 2009 02:31:33 +0000

[...] don’t get me wrong. I know people have written about this movie, that people are researching what abuse is, and that often posts of this perspective have gone viral (a good start). I applaud that. The more [...]

By: Twilight Abuse «

Twilight Abuse « — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 21:54:50 +0000

[...] commentary on the movie adaptation of New Moon. The post has some NSFW language, but goes over the abusive red flags in Bella and Edward’s relationship, as laid out by the National Domestic Violence Hotline. It’s [...]

By: Domestic Violence and You : Lillie Ammann, Writer & Editor

Domestic Violence and You : Lillie Ammann, Writer & Editor — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 20:28:51 +0000

[...] the signs of abuse and be alert for them in people you [...]

By: What is up with my wife? - Page 3

What is up with my wife? - Page 3 — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 00:57:50 +0000

[...] Emotionally abusive women will: Threaten you with abandonment (If you don’t shape up, I’m leaving). I don’t think this is abusive. If a man is abusive and the woman threatens to leave if he doesn’t stop, she’s not being abusive. Same in reverse, if a man threatens to leave because he’s unhappy in the relationship, that’s not abuse. That’s setting limits. The two people may not agree about those limits, but that’s something to talk about. A grown man is not a child who can be "abandoned." If the named threats (children, money, career) are directed at keeping a man in a relationship and controlling his behavior, then it may well be abuse. But the "threats" listed at shrink4men are the kinds of threats that abusive men project onto women when she wants to LEAVE the relationship, not force him to stay in it. In fact, these are the very threats women typically hear when they want to leave an abusive relationship. He says, "If you leave, I will take the children from you, I will take the house, I will make sure you lose your job; you will live on the street." The page goes on to talk about losing access to children. But instead of reassuring men that this is an empty threat, it argues that it is worth it to leave. Even abusive men often get half time custody of their children. There’s no reason a good dad would have less. So it is not reasonable to assume he will lose access to his children if starts from the assumption that he will have them half time. I am not sure if I am being very clear. But I think that this particular web site serves to justify men who are themselves abusive (and expect, for example, to lose their children). That’s NOT to say that the men who read it are all abusive! What Abuse IS: Abuse is a pattern of controlling behavior. (And people who are leaving a relationship are not normally trying to control the other person.) I believe TwelveMonkey’s wife is abusive. But I think TwelveMonkeys will get a more accurate sense of what constitutes abuse from a website such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline. [...]