Comments on: Lost Faith, Abused, Raped, and Hopeless…

By: LINDA AKOFA EWUSI

LINDA AKOFA EWUSI — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 10:43:34 +0000

I am a student in the University of Cape Coast, Ghana and i have a course in Sexual and Domestic Violence. I agree to the fact that nobody deserves to be abused be it sexually or by any other means. I would like to get updated on issues of sexual and domestic violence for my assignments and research. I would be glad to hear from you soon. Thank you. Comment by Linda Akofa Ewusi.

By: LINDA AKOFA EWUSI

LINDA AKOFA EWUSI — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 10:41:38 +0000

By: Ren Royal

Ren Royal — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 19:41:16 +0000

NOBODY DESERVES TO BE RAPED AND/OR ABUSED! NOBODY! SOME PEOPLE TREAT ANIMALS BETTER THAN PEOPLE. WE MUST TAKE A STAND!

I REFUSE TO ALLOW MEN THE POWER OVER ME THAT HOLDS ME DOWN IN BAD SELF ESTEEM, OR CONDEMNATION, OR LOSS OF FAITH AND HOPE. I REFUSE. AND I CANNOT STAND IT WHEN I HEAR SOMEONE SAY, WELL HE OR SHE DESERVES IT – NOBODY DESERVES THE THINGS THAT HAPPENED TO US!

I HOPE YOU TOO, WILL REFUSE, TO ALLOW THEM TO HAVE POWER OVER YOU. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY! YOU DESERVE TO FIND HAPPINESS! PEACE, REN ROYAL

By: j

Sat, 15 Aug 2009 06:50:06 +0000

Ren thank you for reaching out to me. I feel guilty and very confused at times. The person who hit me is a person who is very active in church. He is a youth group leader, plays in the band, leads bible studies. And yet he did such a horrible thing.the person who raped me was my best friend and he was very active in church and was a pastors kid.I have such a hard time understanding everything. I feel torn at times.I feel confused and feel out of place. I don’t know where I stand in my faith anymore.I actually stopped going to church. Nothing feels right.I plan on purchasing your book and I truly hope that it will help me find some peace.I want my life back and I want to feel good about myself and most importantly, I want to be happy.thank you.

By: Ren Royal

Ren Royal — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 20:58:42 +0000

I have one more comment for j – Don’t feel bad if right now you feel as though you maybe can believe God’s power is stronger– I am a preacher’s daughter, and I felt even WORSE for not having the faith that I thought I should have had. During the times I was hurt and in suffering, that even made me feel worse, and kept me further away from people and society. I am not an island, and I needed help. In a hospital, I once found a Christian therapist, and had no money, and she told me to work at shelters as her payment, and that changed my life! I found in shelters a bonding love, of women who shared the same pain, women of all occupations, races, or religions, or ages, women bound together by something stronger than this evil pain inflicted upon us. I too have been hopeless, and also wondered why and questioned God. (I realized God put that therapist in my life for a reason) My tears of pain and suffering turned to floods of peace – I share with you the hope I have found, because someone shared that hope with me, and we together as women, can pass that hope on, that hug, that warmth, that tenderness that hears your cries. Healing does not happen overnight – but it can happen, and through that healing, you will learn to once again embrace your womanhood! It happened to me, and I know it can happen to you! Ren Royal

By: Ren Royal

Ren Royal — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 20:06:50 +0000

These mens power over us, like a plague, that seek to destroy us, don’t have to destroy us. That is what my book is about. I let these men destroy me, but then I knew that God did NOT do these things, there is evil as well as good, and man did these things, not God. I found God’s prevailing love is stronger than this power these men think they have over us, or that we even think they have over us. There are women in different countries who are raped and they are stoned to death for being raped. We in America have the chance to heal, we can heal together, you don’t have to do this alone, when I found other women who shared the same kinds of stories, I learned through their love, God’s love. I thank God that I can heal – and that my prayers are no longer ” I want to die” because of these men, but instead, “I thank God that I can live today.” Please call and reach out, you are not alone. Read my book, I hope that it will help you. Ren Royal

By: Angela

Angela — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 21:05:42 +0000

hello I feel the same way about what you are saying I had that same incident with a guy last year in 2008…he was belittling me and making me feel small and new he was tryign to get me up to bed to rape me and what not telling me I wasnt worth it…he wrote me letters and he even made me feel like I was the one that messed up…good luck peace

By: hotlineadmin_NF

hotlineadmin_NF — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:06:07 +0000

We are so sorry to hear that these things happened to you. If you ever need to talk, process, or receive support around your experience please consider calling the Hotline. Our number is 1-800-799-7233 and we’re open 24/7 and are completely anonymous and confidential. There is an excellent book entitled “Keeping the Faith” by Marie M. Fortune that you might find helpful. It specifically written for Christian women facing abusive situations and it may help you make sense of your experience. You should be able to find it at Amazon.com or your local library may be able to help you find it. All the best to you.

~NDVH Admin

By: j

Thu, 13 Aug 2009 16:44:46 +0000

I am having a very difficult time at dealing, accepting, and understanding why
I became a victim of rape and violence. it is so hard to comprehend. I feel
Stuck and held down. I think its something I will never understand. But after
Reading your story I feel as if maybe I will be ok again.your story kind of
Gave me a little push in realizing that maybe God’s love can heal me and
will take care of me.but then I keep wondering and asking myself…why did
He allow this to happen to me?…I feel awful for thinking that way but I can’t help it.I feel like
I have been stripped of everything and feel so little.I just really want to feel like a woman.